# I Recommend Cultivating Your Tolerance for Unresolved Matters Early On

Everyone likely experiences this: constantly feeling anxious about getting immediate results from what you're working on, feeling stressed and frustrated about uncertainty.

For instance, you have a fleeting idea and expect it to be resolved the next second; or you have a preliminary draft of a plan and desperately want team members to immediately confirm and take action right away.

But reality often shows up differently—you're frantic while others take their time, and the matter just hangs there in limbo, leaving you with nothing but frustration.

Allow things to enter gray zones. This is a capacity for letting go, a capacity for self-trust, a capacity for accepting things beyond your control.

Allow things to remain in a comma state rather than a period—incomplete rather than finished. If you insist on remaining in that fragile state of desperately seeking control you cannot obtain, you won't just drive yourself crazy; you'll drive others crazy too.

Bottom line: stop trying to grip everything in your hands like you're God or something.

Often, before waiting for results, we waste our attention imagining various scenarios about that thing, preventing us from focusing on anything else.

And during the process of speculation and guessing, we drain our own energy significantly, easily trapping ourselves in uncontrolled anxiety that affects our life and work performance. You might scroll your phone while thinking about it, then end up neither enjoying your phone nor figuring out the issue—your whole day just gets wasted.

Allowing matters to remain unresolved is like mixing a complex cocktail: you don't rush to drink it in one gulp, but slowly swirl it, layering ingredients, savoring how each flavor blends and evolves, trusting the final result will be a richly nuanced, memorable masterpiece.

Of course, the prerequisite is having the patience and capital to wait slowly. Many people can't even afford the drink itself, so what's there to talk about regarding the process?

This is a reverence for the process itself, a patient anticipation of the final outcome.