There are only three true rules:

First,利益永远大于情绪。
Second, human nature cannot withstand long-term good.
Third, relationships without利益绑定 will disperse.
If you don't learn阳谋,
In the end, it's not nobility, but being harvested.
Stop fantasizing about “sincerity走天下”.
Sincerity needs to be paired with brains, otherwise it's just chips.
All relationships fundamentally involve resource exchange.
What do you give the other person?
What do they get from you?
What do they lose if they lose you?
When “loss exceeds gains,” the relationship stabilizes.
When “gains exceed losses,” the relationship breaks.
So:
•利益捆绑 = Increase the cost of leaving
•沉没成本 = Lock in emotions
•借势成事 = Amplify leverage
•软钉御人 = Maintain boundaries
Three major weaknesses of human nature:
1. Greed — driven by利益
2. Fear — risk aversion
3. Desire — craving recognition
Understanding these three points allows you to see through most behaviors.
For example:
•Insecure people are easily controlled (because they crave approval)
•Proud people are prone to mistakes (because of arrogance)
•People who have been long indebted will feel guilty (because of debt psychology)
All operations revolve around these three points.
Truly mature people don’t主动伤人, but they must understand the rules.
Many honest people fail not because of lack of ability,
but because they think others are as simple as themselves.
But the reality is:
People who don’t understand boundaries are always being consumed.
Those who can’t refuse are always being exploited.
People who only talk about feelings end up hurt the most.
Learning these is not to harm others,
but to:
•Avoid being divided
•Avoid being exploited
•Avoid being emotionally hijacked
•Avoid being pushed out by利益
The ultimate goal of阳谋 is not to control others,
but to control oneself from being controlled.