Love is the human reality after layers of peeling away the cocoon

1. Before women cohabit, they like to look at height and listen to sweet words; only after sleeping together do they realize that strength, endurance, a large and active tool are actually the most important.
2. Only after having an intimate relationship do they realize that hygiene, trimming nails frequently, and no odor are the most important.
3. After cohabiting, they realize that it is very important that men are lively, have good living habits, and do not act as a bossy figure.
4. Only after marriage do they realize that men with opinions, who can handle mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships (not just a mouthpiece), are very important.
5. During pregnancy and childbirth, they realize that patience, the ability to get up at night to feed milk and change diapers (not pretending to sleep), are very important.
6. After children start school, they realize that emotional stability and the ability to tutor homework (not losing temper) are very important.
7. During child-rearing, they find that a man’s broad outlook, sense of responsibility, and providing high-quality paternal love and companionship are very important.
8. During career development, they realize that a man with high emotional value, supporting his wife’s work, and not reckless spending (not wasting money), are very important.
9. After family setbacks or economic crises, they realize that a man who can endure hardships and be the backbone of the family is very important.
10. After children grow up and leave home, they realize that a man’s good health, non-isolated personality, and not causing trouble for his wife are very important.
11. When old and ill, they realize that a man with savings, a conscience still intact, and understanding how to care for others, is very important.
From the initial heartbeat over height and sweet words, to the practicality of “having work in the eyes” after cohabitation, to the reliance on patience and broad outlook during childbirth and raising children, and finally to the hope for health and conscience in old age, every “realization” is a stripping away of the love filter and a closer approach to the essence of marriage.
#Seeing the full picture of marriage with clear and rational eyes—there is the calm after passion fades, the tests of daily trivialities, and the warmth of weathering storms together. A good marriage is simply two people at each stage of life becoming the person each needs most. From the initial heartbeat to companionship in old age, after layers of peeling away, what remains are responsibility, commitment, and the human reality of not leaving each other. May everyone find their own unique belonging🫶🏻